About Jay

I'm Jay.  Wife, mother, writer, marketer, planner, organiser, occasional over-thinker and someone who has recently discovered that being good at making plans doesn't mean life is obliged to follow them.

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I've spent most of my adult life working, raising two daughters with my husband, building a career and trying to keep everyone moving in roughly the right direction.

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I've always believed that if you work hard enough, organise enough, and have a decent spreadsheet, you can probably figure most things out.

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I'm discovering otherwise.

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My eldest daughter is autistic and is building a life and identity of her own. She's a Para Taekwondo athlete, has ambitions of her own and is capable of far more than many people realise.

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Her circumstances have led my husband and me, now in our early 50s to rethink our future. 

 

We always expected our daughters would have flown the coop by 30.  Instead, we're trying to build a future in which she has her own life — and her sister gets to have hers.

And that has left us standing at the edge of something unfamiliar. Not a cliff. Not a disaster. Just a landscape we don't recognise.

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So we're taking stock, readjusting and learning how to navigate it.

 

A few things about your crazy guide:

Mother — of two very different daughters

Wife — navigating the next chapter with my husband

Career woman — still figuring out what's next professionally

Para Taekwondo mum — learning that supporting an elite athlete is practically a full-time job in itself

Recovering planner — apparently.

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